Family is a Gift that Lasts Forever

Lainey Loves Life - blog - National Family Caregivers Month

November is National Family Caregivers Month and before this month ends, I would like to share with you a little bit about our family.

It was one humid night in March 2015 when I last heard my grandma speak. She spoke to me. She asked for ice cream but I lovingly said I can’t give her more because she can’t have too much sweets and I don’t want her to get sore throat. She smiled at me and didn’t say a word. A few hours later, we rushed her to the hospital and the doctor declared that she’s in coma. After saying our goodbyes and prayers, at the 24th hour, my grandma passed away. She died of Subarachnoid Hemorrhage (bleeding in the space between the brain and the membrane that covers it) which is common among the elderly.

Two years before that, she had a mild stroke but because my grandma was mentally, psychologically, and spiritually strong, she recovered fast. From being bedridden, she was able to sit again. We tried helping her walk but she couldn’t. Even so, I never heard my grandma speak ill of her condition. She was a happy person and she thanked the Lord everyday for all the blessings in her life.

It was my grandma’s condition that made me realise the value of family. We aren’t rich and we didn’t have all the money needed to get a professional nurse for her. My sister is a nurse and another sister is a Med-Tech student so they taught everyone in the family how to properly care for her when they’re not around. I was fortunate to have understanding employers so I spent many days at home doing my job remotely. When I wasn’t in front of my laptop, I changed my grandma’s diapers, cleaned her nails, massaged her legs and feet. I was her personal nurse, physical therapist, and driver. They say my grandma was lucky to have us, her family, who cared for her and showered her with love. I say we were lucky to have her for bringing us into this world.

I’m encouraging everyone to become your family’s keeper/carer.

Filipinos are family oriented. In fact, our parents would allow us to stay with them at home until they’re ready to move to a place of our own. I wish us children and grandchildren would do the same for our parents not as an obligation but to give thanks and return the love they have given us. After all, we won’t be here if not for them.

You will feel at peace when you know you have done everything to make them happy while they’re still alive. Know that I’m pertaining to time and attention and not just financial support. They recover fast when they know their family is with them every step of the way because believe it or not, HAPPINESS HEALS. FAITH HEALS. LOVE CREATES MIRACLES.

Because I love my family so much, I’ll do everything in my power to care for them when they’re sick or when they’re too old to clean up their mess. I’d carry them with love and patience just like how they did when I was born. Family is a gift that lasts forever.

I salute all those who stand as caregivers to sick family members. I’m praying for you that God may bless you and allow you to carry out this task with love, patience, and strength.

Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land of the Lord your God is giving you. – Exodus 20:12


Spread the Love

Hi everyone! I haven’t been actively blogging these past few days but I’m reading your posts when I can. I noticed that some of you have followed my social media accounts and I try to reciprocate by following you back. Thanks for the love!

Let’s do an activity!

I want to show you my support by liking and following your accounts. Here are the links to mine. Please leave yours on the comment section and I’ll hit like or comment once I’m done.

I also encourage other bloggers to participate by liking/following each and every blogger who comments and in return, they’ll like you back. Please like the comment of the blogger once you’re done following them. This is a weekend activity so be sure to check the comment section on Monday to make sure you didn’t miss any!

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Little kicks

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My first ultrasound scan | Hello baby! You make my life so colourful and you’re not even out yet!

I’m over the moon. God has blessed me with a gift and in an instant, I’ve changed. So this is what they call pregnancy and this is what they call mommy instinct. This is the elated feeling a woman gets bearing a baby. God, I’m so grateful for this wonderful feeling.

My eyes widen at every movement. My heart jumps at every kick. My whole being is just ecstatically happy with every thought of this little one inside me. In Biology class we discussed this many times but I never cared, and now I realise how this magical feeling is just so different from the neat description in science books. It’s amazing how God made a woman’s body capable of carrying an innocent soul. The process of baking the “bun in the oven” for nine months just sounds underrated. Not even a million words could define this inexplicable feeling, any mom would know. 

A woman doesn’t need to have a baby to become a mother and I am truly grateful for being given the great task of carrying this child until he or she is born into this world. God will breathe air into my baby’s body when it arrives and my family and friends will be there for the grand welcome. My life has changed and it will never ever be the same.

My only prayer is for my baby to be healthy. That’s all I’ve been praying for since the day I found out. I am not a perfect person but with God’s grace and guidance, I’ll strive to be a great mum to my child.

Baby, every day is a gift and I treasure every moment you’re inside me. My love for you is immeasurable and extremely bigger than anything I have given in my life. You and daddy are my strength and hope. To me, you are the ultimate proof of love.

I love you now…

…and I’ll love you more tomorrow.

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Sunday: Intelligent Conversations

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a beautiful mess…

This week was unlike any other week. I barely went out but I spent quite some time chatting with friends online since I’m confined here at home due to health reasons. Few months back when the word “busy” was underrated, I barely had time to check on my friends. I only squeeze a coffee date with the ones who live nearby in between my trips and life events. Looking back, I realised just how quick life can change because of one decision and I’m happy with how my life turned out. 🙂 These days, I have plenty of time to say hi to them and start a short conversation. Things just seem to get better every day.

Since today is a Sunday, I would like to share the important life lessons I learned in the past week from my friends and I hope that you’ll find what I’m sharing helpful. I call them intelligent conversations (mixed with spiritual lessons and by spiritual please keep in mind that I’m not even referring to religion).

On money…

On my friend Xai‘s facebook timeline, I saw a post about scratch cards and lottery. She discussed it so well and a lot of her friends left comments on that particular post. I felt the urge to write something. People have to know this:

Do not spend or lend money that you can’t afford to lose. Also, do not borrow an amount you can’t afford to pay.

Gambling is usually a “one-off fun” that could result to addiction. Excessive spending is a conscious choice that also turns to addiction and before you know it, you’re already spending more than your allowance for leisure. Should there be an urgent need and you’re short financially, follow your payment plan. This is the only way you can keep yourself out of debt and also the only way to earn people’s trust. Many of us trust in “luck” when we should trust in God. And many people also slack off and ask God without using their God-given talents to earn a living. If you want something, ask God, work hard for it and do not forget to thank God for all the blessings you receive.

Ask and it will be given to you. Matthew 7:7

On optimism and resilience…

I was chatting with Jill this afternoon and we were talking about blogs – what to write, what not to write, why start blogging again, why now, why not? During our convo over facebook I said something she really liked:

I believe that when there’s something you feel bad about, pray and let it go. Don’t write it on your diary because that’s like giving a bad thing an anniversary.

…and I mean it. There will always be something that will remind you of the pain and the best way to let go is to forget when it happened and you’ll eventually forget about the feeling too. Sure, you’ll remember it from time to time (you might even cry) but things change, you know? Things get better. Help yourself let go of the negative feelings and you’ll be surprised with how positivity can teach you resilience.

I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13

On friendship…

Choose your friends wisely. You don’t need a lot in this life, only the loyal and truthful few.

I haven’t spoken with Katia (my friend and former boss in Doha) in ages and what we had was a great one. Our conversation was energising and she’s a breath of fresh air. I remember when my love asked me where my friends are because he wants to meet them and I giddily said, “They’re scattered all over the world!” It just came to me that we should find time to talk to our friends no matter how busy we are or where in the world they are and remind them of why we love them and how their friendship changed our lives.

Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family. Proverbs 18:24 

On family

Family is family no matter what. Do not disown or speak evil about them.

I had a long spiritual conversation with my cousin Beth and we discussed so many things. The most important among all of the things we talked about was sticking to your family no matter what happens. We all go through conflicts and disagreements but at the end of the day, when we’re in need, it is our family who will stand by our side and help us get through the toughest time in our life.

Keep your father’s commands and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. Proverbs 6:20

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